Over the last few months there has been a big story in the media regarding a family that killed their two girls and the husband’s ex-wife. The family being accused and recently found guilty had said they did the horrific deed because their daughters were, shall we say being absorbed in western culture. This case got me thinking to how far would you go to protect your honor, integrity, or any other leadership quality you feel to be important? Now I certainly am not suggesting that anybody commit murder to protect any of those qualities as that would take you back to the other side of the leadership track. However there must be some internal setting within a person that makes them stand up for honesty, integrity, and the honor of their name? If there wasn’t then we would all be criminals without a care of the consequence of our actions.
As a leadership coach and consultant and someone whose whole life has been built on my name integrity is high on my list of items that I keep dear to my heart. Like most people I don’t impose my idea of honor onto others, but set the standards in myself and don’t drop below the line. This internal setting is developed based on values that are important to me and my family name. For many people that bar is hard to set, it is also hard to keep at that level over time. I remember struggling with the right and wrong thing when I was a kid. Have you ever done that? For instance my parents taught me that on a bus or public transit you are to give up your seat to an older person, someone who is pregnant, etc. This caused great turmoil as in those days it wasn’t cool to do ,that is why we sat in the back. My friends weren’t brought up the same way therefore I was always questioned for doing it. I used to always be judging people as to were they old enough to stand or did they have to sit, would they make it all the way to the back of the bus and so on? It was very stressful! Holding the door was the same thing, when I am at a mall my wife thinks I am the doorman as I never get to go through it. Today I am glad the way I was brought up, but at times it has been a challenge.
So the point of this article is how important are your values to you? Are you trying to fit in with the crowd and do what they do or are you willing to stand on your own for your values and your name? There is only one person that has that answer and if you look in the mirror you will find that person. I wish you well.
About the Author
Bruce Outridge is a business and leadership consultant for entrepreneurs and the transportation industry. More information can be found on his website at www.outridge.ca